" Brittany I am grateful for the way you are such a strong personality but can dial it in and approach everyone as their personality needs. Like with me you are more gentle because that is what I need. I so appreciate that about you!" Donna said as we danced in our seats at the Dodger's game. My love tank was just filled more by that simple comment yet it also got me thinking....
Early on in life I learned that I am what I like to refer to as an Alpha Female. With command as one of my top five strengths it's no wonder why I have a strong personality.
Strengths Finder's definition: Command leads you to take charge. Unlike some people, you feel no discomfort with imposing your views on others. On the contrary, once your opinion is formed, you need to share it with others. Once your goal is set, you feel restless until you have aligned others with you. You are not frightened by confrontation; rather, you know that confrontation is the first step toward resolution. Whereas others may avoid facing up to life's unpleasantness, you feel compelled to present the facts or the truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be. You need things to be clear between people and challenge them to be clear-eyed and honest. You push them to take risks. You may even intimidate them. And while some may resent this, labeling you opinionated, they often willingly hand you the reins. People are drawn toward those who take a stance and ask them to move in a certain direction. Therefore, people will be drawn to you. You have presence. You have Command.
Knowing my strengths has helped me these last few years as I have discovered myself, learned more about how I was created/ built and have a voice.
Recently I have had a few people inform me that they didn't know I have a strong personality. Since I am so go with the flow or don't step up and take charge in a situation that may be in need of leadership this news was a surprise when I started to describe myself.
It made me realize two things: 1. I am still more reserved and guarded with new people which I can attribute to my introverted tendencies and the respect of the group and the balance already established. 2. I have learned to reign in my strong personality to fit the occasion.
It's funny because I look back and see that there are so many instances in my life where I have just decided to take charge and run the show. Yet I can see the effect it had on said relationships and at times the damage that was done because of such a gift roaming wild and free.
So as I was thinking about that comment last night I realized, it isn't always the level of volume with which one speaks, or how many facts you have about the topic at hand, or how overpowering you are that makes you a strong personality. It is the way that you with that knowledge of your personality traits conduct yourself in each situation. Do you make the introvert with trust issues feel safe? Do you give enough energy and command to balance the extrovert with high energy? Do you give the introvert who is learning to find his/her voice the space to make the final decision? Do you let the extrovert who needs to lead to feel validated the path to lead your time?
Now hear me when I say I don't let others bulldoze me. However, I do see the value of empowering and loving people and encouraging them in their giftings and weaknesses to grow. At the end of the day deep down everyone just wants to be known for who they are, loved unconditionally and belong.
For me this is just one of the ways I show love.
Do strong personalities know how to function in all circumstances?
Early on in life I learned that I am what I like to refer to as an Alpha Female. With command as one of my top five strengths it's no wonder why I have a strong personality.
Strengths Finder's definition: Command leads you to take charge. Unlike some people, you feel no discomfort with imposing your views on others. On the contrary, once your opinion is formed, you need to share it with others. Once your goal is set, you feel restless until you have aligned others with you. You are not frightened by confrontation; rather, you know that confrontation is the first step toward resolution. Whereas others may avoid facing up to life's unpleasantness, you feel compelled to present the facts or the truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be. You need things to be clear between people and challenge them to be clear-eyed and honest. You push them to take risks. You may even intimidate them. And while some may resent this, labeling you opinionated, they often willingly hand you the reins. People are drawn toward those who take a stance and ask them to move in a certain direction. Therefore, people will be drawn to you. You have presence. You have Command.
Knowing my strengths has helped me these last few years as I have discovered myself, learned more about how I was created/ built and have a voice.
Recently I have had a few people inform me that they didn't know I have a strong personality. Since I am so go with the flow or don't step up and take charge in a situation that may be in need of leadership this news was a surprise when I started to describe myself.
It made me realize two things: 1. I am still more reserved and guarded with new people which I can attribute to my introverted tendencies and the respect of the group and the balance already established. 2. I have learned to reign in my strong personality to fit the occasion.
It's funny because I look back and see that there are so many instances in my life where I have just decided to take charge and run the show. Yet I can see the effect it had on said relationships and at times the damage that was done because of such a gift roaming wild and free.
So as I was thinking about that comment last night I realized, it isn't always the level of volume with which one speaks, or how many facts you have about the topic at hand, or how overpowering you are that makes you a strong personality. It is the way that you with that knowledge of your personality traits conduct yourself in each situation. Do you make the introvert with trust issues feel safe? Do you give enough energy and command to balance the extrovert with high energy? Do you give the introvert who is learning to find his/her voice the space to make the final decision? Do you let the extrovert who needs to lead to feel validated the path to lead your time?
Now hear me when I say I don't let others bulldoze me. However, I do see the value of empowering and loving people and encouraging them in their giftings and weaknesses to grow. At the end of the day deep down everyone just wants to be known for who they are, loved unconditionally and belong.
For me this is just one of the ways I show love.
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