Do I have a story for you!

"I was on a blind date once and this woman brought me a build a bear and there was a voice-over done and the voice quoted the verse that talks about: a man who finds a wife finds a good thing... and then I was done dating... for a while."

This was a story a pastor used in a sermon that my roommate listened to recently. She shared it with me tonight as we were talking about the crazy stories I have accrued over the last year in my experiences and encounters with men. 

My experiences have not been marriage proposals as this pastors was. But mine have been more of men christian and non-christian alike wanting more of my body then of me. Not much else mattered. I, as a person, didn't really matter just my body did. At one point I thought, maybe if I gain back that weight I have lost men will stop trying to sleep with me. Yeah every once and a while an exaggerated thought crosses my mind. 

But tonight after that story God reminded me of the men that are single that are in my life that treat me with worth. The men that treat me with honor and respect, not just my body but me as a person. 

I remember once, months ago,  I was so mad after dating a guy that I texted a friend and asked him if there were any decent men out there anymore? Then he shared how he would treat a lady if he dated them. In that moment God said see, they are still out there.

Another time I shared a couple of dating stories with a guy friend and he just looked at me and said "Brittany I'm sorry."Quality and super healing and it was only three little words. 

Then another man, a month or two ago, shared his views on how a woman should be treated. First, the thought, time and growth that it took for him to come to his convictions about it was so respectable. Second, I remember in that moment thinking, Lord thank you. I was thanking the Lord because here was a man of faith who valued something like I did and the Lord was showing me, see not all men just go for the body. Some men hold the value of sex the way I intended it, with the highest value. And there are so many more...

Ladies, these are real men. Men who hold more value in God's word then in getting to take you home at the end of the night. Men who want to guard your heart and your purity as they pursue you. A man who would run away if the temptation became too great because he knows that it is better to flee then to defile your body. 

We as women should want men that would rather hold back the affection if the temptation is too great then straddle the line. I know that's what I want, if I am granted a man one day. The man that sets the boundaries, takes ownership of them and leads me well in that area among others is a man of character. A man worth allowing to pursue me. He is a man that not only walks with God but listens to Him. He is a man worth considering. 

But don't think ladies you are going to get away with not doing your part. This blog is just long enough, next time it's the ladies turn. Don't worthy brotha's, I got you!