Is parenthood taken seriously these days? I don't think our generation has a real idea of the presence a male father figure has on a child's life. As someone who lost her father at a young age I am here to tell you, it does. I think so much of our generation doesn't truly understand how that role can affect a little boy or in my case a little girl.
I grew up in a very loving home. A home where God was the foundation. But at a young age I lost my father and with it most of my memory from my childhood. So what happens to someone who missed that in her youth?
There are the natural responses. You become insecure about yourself, you go to other guys/men for that affirmation, you have trust issues and don't need anyone EVER, essentially you lose your way. Everyone has issues, but when a parent is missing in a girls life there is a real is void to be filled. I didn't even know that was fully possible until recently. Especially because I have God as my heavenly Father right? How can I have any insecurities when I belong to the King of Kings?
Well I never said I was perfect. In fact I am far from it, farther and farther the deeper I look. And yes the unconditional love of Jesus does make up for that void and that lack but it's getting there that can be the hard part.
For all you ladies out there hurting because of a lack of that father, whether physically, emotionally or mentally, I know your pain. I know your hurts all though I may not know them in their entirely because they are yours, I do know what they are like.
So as someone who has walked a day in your shoes know these things...
1. It wasn't your fault.
2. You are more beautiful, more precious and more valuable than you can ever imagine or may ever realize.
3. You are not defined by this.
4. There is this guy that wants to fill that void, it is a super hard path to get there but I promise as someone who is walking through that process, I wouldn't encourage you to walk that road if I myself were not walking it.
5. It wasn't your fault.
6. The pain doesn't last forever.
7. You are not alone.
8. Don't be a victim to your circumstance but a culture changer.
9. Oh and it's not your fault.
So if you want to be a parent someday know this your role in your childs life has more of an impact on them than you or they could ever imagine. You are responsible for that little person(s). Love them, encourage them and take seriously the responsibility entrusted to you. Parenthood is a privilege and a gift so take it seriously.
My father was taken from me at a young age, he did not have leave by choice but none the less he was taken. That is the reality of my life but that reality does not define me. What defines me is two pieces of wood, three holes, one death and resurrection.
Psalm 139:13-16
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
I grew up in a very loving home. A home where God was the foundation. But at a young age I lost my father and with it most of my memory from my childhood. So what happens to someone who missed that in her youth?
There are the natural responses. You become insecure about yourself, you go to other guys/men for that affirmation, you have trust issues and don't need anyone EVER, essentially you lose your way. Everyone has issues, but when a parent is missing in a girls life there is a real is void to be filled. I didn't even know that was fully possible until recently. Especially because I have God as my heavenly Father right? How can I have any insecurities when I belong to the King of Kings?
Well I never said I was perfect. In fact I am far from it, farther and farther the deeper I look. And yes the unconditional love of Jesus does make up for that void and that lack but it's getting there that can be the hard part.
For all you ladies out there hurting because of a lack of that father, whether physically, emotionally or mentally, I know your pain. I know your hurts all though I may not know them in their entirely because they are yours, I do know what they are like.
So as someone who has walked a day in your shoes know these things...
1. It wasn't your fault.
2. You are more beautiful, more precious and more valuable than you can ever imagine or may ever realize.
3. You are not defined by this.
4. There is this guy that wants to fill that void, it is a super hard path to get there but I promise as someone who is walking through that process, I wouldn't encourage you to walk that road if I myself were not walking it.
5. It wasn't your fault.
6. The pain doesn't last forever.
7. You are not alone.
8. Don't be a victim to your circumstance but a culture changer.
9. Oh and it's not your fault.
So if you want to be a parent someday know this your role in your childs life has more of an impact on them than you or they could ever imagine. You are responsible for that little person(s). Love them, encourage them and take seriously the responsibility entrusted to you. Parenthood is a privilege and a gift so take it seriously.
My father was taken from me at a young age, he did not have leave by choice but none the less he was taken. That is the reality of my life but that reality does not define me. What defines me is two pieces of wood, three holes, one death and resurrection.
Psalm 139:13-16
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
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